just call me benjamin button

Most people in life follow similar paths: get born > grow up > move out of parents' house > get married > buy house of their own > have kids > grow old > die. This happens because it's a fairly logical progression. For whatever reasons though, my life has not necessarily gone by The Plan. Honestly, I used to worry about this. A lot. And I still do to a certain extent: what am I missing out on? Why have I not sought out what is the normal way of getting things done? Will I die before seeing the pyramids? But mostly, I'm totally cool with it. I think things happen certain ways for a reason, and we usually don't learn the reason until much after the fact.

So, recently, when I finally decided that home ownership was just not for me, no matter how much I wanted it to be, and how much I felt like it was what I was Supposed To Do, I gave in and decided it was time to just sell the damn thing. About a month ago, some lucky couple snatched it up and I am finally going to be a freer man. And I've decided to move to the booming metropolis of Denver. For me, this is a big move. Despite one very brief stint, I've never lived in a city as big as Denver and frankly, I'm not a small amount of nervous about it. It has me thinking that once again I'm doing things backwards. Whereas most people move to large urban areas when they're young and full of energy and move to the suburbs when they're old and tired, I'm doing it the other way around. I've always been a late bloomer though and this is just another instance where I'm about twenty years late.

Part of me kind of wishes I could back out of it and just stay put, but the larger part knows that this will end up being a good thing. I'll have more access to work and hopefully a larger social circle to choose from. Plus, hopefully, I'll be able to save a lot of money and finally be able to travel to all of the places I've always wanted to see. Which are many and varied.

At any rate, regardless of what happens, I'm once again, packing up the moving truck and hitting the road. Wish me luck.


Mrs. C. said...

You know this already, but I am so wishing you luck and think you're doing the right thing. But maybe that's because I'm all screwed up and haven't done things in the normal progression, either. :)

Rebel said...

Cities are good, and as far as they go I think Denver is especially nice. Change is good.

Eliza said...

There's a wonderful This American Life called Plan B, about how most things don't happen the way we think and we spend most of our lives improvising. Which I think is good - it keeps us from becoming stagnant. Best of luck to you Sean! We will miss you here in FC.

Michael5000 said...

Logical progressions are old-school. These days it's all about the non-linear gameplay.

Melissa said...

Congrats! Sometimes it is hard to go against all the "shoulds" (or supposed to's) that are out there...but isn't following our own hearts FUN? Certainly more exciting in my case!! Enjoy carving out this part of your path!

LSL said...

Is Portland one of the places you want to see? Because I think it is. And also, I am totally lovin that first paragraph. Can we please wax philosophical about The Plan, and missing out, and what we're Supposed To Do sometime over lots and lots of beer?

I'm really happy for you, D! Is it too much to ask that we get daily updates on every detail of your new adventure?